Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Relationship Expert

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Can your relationships be enhanced by a relationship expert?

What can a relationship expert teach you that you do not already know?

Believe it or not, there are some discreet skills that a relationship expert can teach you that will make your connections to other human beings more effective, whether those are professional or romantic relationships.

For example, Robert Epstein, Ph.D., Helen Fisher,Ph.D., and John Gottman,Ph.D. are researchers whose research I believe offers tremendous benefits to those willing to read their work and try it out.

Professor Epstein has been writing recently and really challenging our Western concept of courtship, for example.

Epstein wonders why 95% of arranged marriages in India are long lasting and grow in happiness when our divorce rate, even with the intervention of the Fairy Godmother, is 50% in our first, second, and even third marriages.

Epstein says that maybe we should do some intimacy building exercises as couples in order to share the benefits of a long lasting union.

Helen Fisher,Ph.D., has been studying the phenomenon of romantic love, and she says that we have the best chance of a successful union if we start the romantic love process with a compatible personality type.

Want to discover what your type is? Well, you have to take her personality quiz at Chemistry. The idea of engineering romantic love sure appeals to me.

John Gottman,Ph.D., and Julie Schwartze-Gottman, LCSW, have been observing couples for 30 years at the 'love lab', and they have some real insights about how to make relationship longer lasting and much more fun.

For example, they can observe a couple and tell you within a few minutes whether the relationship will last, based on the number of times they see expressions of contempt, stonewalling, criticism, and defensiveness.

The Gottman's observations of couples are video taped over the course of a weekend at least, and broken down by a team of experts for non-verbal communication patterns, they look at your urine and blood for stress hormones, ect. so this is a serious observation.

The Gottman's have teased out a number of skills that the folks who are successful in relationship, who they call the Master's of Marriage, appear to have, and they have put those together in a workshop called The Art and Science of Love.

I have taken segments of that workshop and used it with my domestic violence counseling clients, who are often amazed that relationship has discreet skills that they can learn.

Back to relationship expert Robert Epstein,Ph.D., who says that we in the West can have long lasting relationships with all the benefits that result for our children and our health if we put aside our Disney Prince Charming meets Cinderella at the ball and they live happily ever after with the help of the Fairy Godmother relationship model and make some effort to practice intimacy, like a relationship workout, if you will.

Epstein has students in his university classes practice some of the exercises he prescribes for couples, like soul gazing, where couples take a couple of minutes to look into each other's eyes, not stare, but gaze, and the students who do this report a stunning increase of feelings of closeness for the other participant.

Another of the Epstein exercises involves synchronizing breathing, which I find interesting, because I have used a heart rate variability biofeedback program with couples to teach them how to take a look at the heart beat of the relationship.

The the heart rate variability biofeedback program offers a wonderful way for couples to learn how to bring their individual heart beat into coherence and then bring the heart beat of their relationship into coherence.

Couples learn from this practice that the relationship is dynamic, and it changes from coherent to incoherent and perhaps back to coherence based on their thoughts, breathing, and attention.

Relationship needs to be attended to heart beat by heart beat rather than crises by crises.

The best news for the new experts in relationship? When they learn to attend to their relationship in brief intervals like heart beats, tuning relationship coherence is much easier.

I think reading about the ideas of the above researchers will go a long way towards making one much more expert in relationships.

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Monday, April 12, 2010

Add Fitness Supplements In Your Diet To Get The Best Results

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Looks does matter in todays competitive world. Everyone wants to look attractive and beautiful. But how many of us put that effort to become beautiful? Obesity is one of the greatest problems that mar of our beauty. It becomes really difficult to lose weight without following some effective strategies. Many people want to know how to lose weight.

But due to lack of proper knowledge they hardly achieve their goals. Balanced diet and exercise are two of the crucial strategies of losing weight. But many of us do not know what type of diet is suitable for us. Doctors and researchers are trying to find innovative and useful ways to tackle this issue. They have already invented many useful and innovative strategies and techniques. With the help of effective diet plan and supplements you can lose weight and become strong.

By applying some effective tips and advices, it can become easy for you to cut off extra flab from your body. You can lose weight by burning more calories than you consume. But it is not that simple. We require putting much effort to see the change in ourselves. Many people stick on to diet plan that they choose or take pills to reduce weight. Some also rely on the fitness gadgets that promise instant success. Following one or other strategy will not help you. You need to combine exercise, proper diet and supplements in your fitness program to get the result. To get the best result, you need to be patient. You need to make little changes each and every day.

Taking supplements can prove to be advantageous for you. But you need to take the right supplement to get the desired result. There are various types of fitness supplements in the market. Before taking one, it is better to consult with your doctor and fitness expert.

Body Building and Fitness Supplements

Most of us want to get a fit and strong body. Supplements, especially the fitness supplements can help you a lot in achieving fabulous body. Supplements are actually addition to a great training, good nutrition and weight loss program. Training and nutrition are the most essential components of a fitness, bodybuilding and weight loss program.

There are various kinds of fitness supplements. But you need to choose the right one o get the desired result. It is better to peak with your fitness expert and doctor about this issue. They will help you in selecting the right fitness supplements.

Many people live under the misconception that fitness supplements alone can give them the desired body shape and strength. This is not true in many cases. To get the result, you need to do proper exercise, take proper diet and add supplements to your diet. By combining all these; you can get the desired result.

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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Aerobics Instructor: A Fun Career In Fitness

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Aerobics classes are fantastic ways to lose weight while having fun. There aren't many exercise methods that can claim the same thing. Becoming an aerobics instructor isn't as difficult as you may think. Many aerobics instructors are just former aerobics students. They have so much experience in aerobics that they are able to lead others. The main thing an aerobics instructor must have is motivation. They must not only have motivation to motivate themselves but they must be able to motivate others. Motivation is the key ingredient to any good aerobics instructor.

Music, Many Times, Makes The Class

Another aspect of a good aerobics instructor is the ability to choose good music to work out to. The music should have a fun beat that really gets the heart going and provides the extra motivation that people need when working out. A good soundtrack can make people forget they're working out, to an extent, and can make the time fly by. Combined with good instruction from the aerobics instructor, many times, the music makes the aerobics class.

When deciding to become an aerobics instructor, you should decide what type of aerobics class you want to teach. You should teach only those aerobics classes that you are familiar with. That is, you should only teach the aerobics classes that you, yourself, have participated in. You wouldn't want to teach an aerobics class where you're not familiar with all the moves. The class, who may be familiar with that particular class, will clearly see that you're not qualified to teach that class and you may soon find yourself with an empty room as people won't want to finish the work out.

To get started, visit your local fitness centers and ask them if they are in need of any aerobics instructors. Many times, there are several aerobics instructors at any one facility since they hold so many classes throughout the day. Once you secure a position, come up with a good work out plan that you can take the class through. Work on your motivation, your voice, so you can be heard even at the back of the class, and pick a good workout soundtrack. Once you have all of these aspects down pat, you'll soon become the aerobics instructor you've always wanted to be. You'll look great but, most importantly, you'll help others look great, too. For a teacher, trainer or instructor, there's no better feeling than that.

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